Rumblings of the Soul

Soulmate..
The Soul; the spiritual, rational, and immortal part in man; that part of man which enables him to think, and which renders him a subject of moral government; — sometimes, in distinction from the higher nature, or spirit, of man, the so-called animal soul, that is, the seat of life, the sensitive affections and phantasy, exclusive of the voluntary and rational powers; — sometimes, in distinction from the mind, the moral and emotional part of man’s nature, the seat of feeling, in distinction from intellect; — sometimes, the intellect only; the understanding; the seat of knowledge, as distinguished from feeling. In a more general sense, an animating, seperable, surviving entity, the vehicle of individual personal existence.
The soul can be said to be an entity something unquantifiable something individual and something unique amongst living creatures. It is something sorely confined to humanity so we told. The question however is; Can it have a mate a kindred counter to its ying, a yang? Can it have fluidity and balance? Is there such a thing as star crossed lovers, fated souls or just Soulmates in essence? Other species mate for life; birds, animals have been known to have one mate for life how should humans be so different? Is that what I should consider a soulmate as? A mate for life?? Or would Romeo and Juliet or maybe Heathcliff in Wuthering Heights provide a more realistic example of what kindred spirits are?? Someone who would fight through adversity to be with you and to be just able to say they loved you. Though fictional they provide the most alluring insight into the question, my question, what is a soulmate?
That question is as difficult to answer as any I have encountered in my comparatively longish life. This stems from the fact that it brings to the fore the question of love.. What is love now? Can anyone really define it and put it in simple terms? Can one argue that love is an inability to live without another being? Too simplistic and vague I think!!! But Romeo and Juliet didn’t think so?? And Heathcliff certainly agreed with that perception as well. That followed each other into death and sacrificed all to be together is an underlying theme and point of focus. That is the ultimate act or symbol of affection I feel.
Now that, that is out of the way let me delve into my favourite subject and point of smiles and constant glee, Papillon. She apparently does not believe that there is such a thing. Her point is you can not have just one soulmate but you give out a little bit of your soul everytime you love and are loved in return. Hmmm sounds logical but my question is, there has to be that one constant the IT the STANDARD you have set as the bar for all other future relationships if that is, you have been unfortunate enough to break up or lose said mate.
My question however is say, you haven’t met someone in person but feel a kinship for them and a connection transcending a base feeling like lust and the feeling is mutual.. Can that not be regarded as something star crossed, something electric, something to savour and relish? Can you accept as an individual that the individuality of the soul that I referenced earlier has been compromised that it is now not sorely yours but a shared entity. Something you would give your right hand and both feet for??
So is she a soulmate or just a passing fancy? Can I really give her that individuality and not feel naked afterwards? I am a man after all and pride and hubris are my best mates. To surrender so much of oneself is something I have never done before. The risk is just too great… But when something is fated you hold no control over the outcome but just seat back and enjoy the ride while it lasts. Am I to be one of those or should I fight it? That is the million dollar question. I will forever remain and be a skeptic but life is just funny like that.
To go on now would serve little purpose other than to muddle my thoughts and that is not the objective.. Read between the lines!!!